From Friend To Boyfriend
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One of the most frequent questions I am asked is "How do I go from being a friend to being a boyfriend?". I'm not going to lie to you and tell you that this is easy to do, but it can be done. The best way to avoid getting into a situation like this in the future is to show a romantic interest in each attractive woman you meet immediately, that way you will never end up in the "friends category". However, many of you may already be classified as a "friend" to a woman that you are interested in starting a relationship with. If that is the case, this is what you need to do:
You must let her know how you feel right now! The longer you linger in the "friends category" the less your chance of success will be. Do not worry about what she will say, that does not matter because if she rejects you the friendship will end... which is a GOOD thing. It is not good for your ego & self confidence to hang around a girl that you want to be with when the feelings are not mutual, the longer this goes on the more your confidence levels will drop... and can ultimately effect your game with other women, dramatically.
With that in mind you should now know what needs to be done. You need to decide if you are going to step up to the plate and put it all on the line (I told you it was not easy). If you do, she will look at you in a whole new way because you had the balls to ask her out, since she probably already has the impression that you are scared to express your feelings for her (she knows that you like her... you may not think so, but trust me... she does). When you tell her how you feel you must do it in a smooth and confident manner... in such a way that will surprise and impress her. Here are a few examples that you can use and change to fit your needs:
"(her name), I think that it is obvious that I am interested in you as more than a friend... I like you a lot and I think, or at least hope that the feeling is mutual. What do you say we start slow and see what happens, sound good?"
"(her name), we have been friends for a while now, and when I picture the ideal girlfriend in my head all I think of is you... we are so close I don't see any reason why we should not step our relationship up to the next level... what do you say we give it a try?"
Now the example below is the most effective... but only works if her friends (that are girls) think you are a decent guy:
"(her name), I think you are a good friend and all, but I don't want to be your friend... I want to be your boyfriend. I like you a lot and I think, or at least hope that the feeling is mutual. I think we should start off slow and see what happens... but I don't want you to answer right now, give it some thought first..."
If she attempts to answer you right away cover her mouth and shake your head while saying "I told you, do not answer right now... even if you are going to say yes, think about it for a while". You want to do this because the next thing every woman would do after being propositioned in such a way is call her closest friends to tell them what has just happened to her. Even if you are only slightly "in" with her friends, they will respond by saying things like "He's so sweet" or "That's so romantic", and they will definitely give her the thumbs-up on this one. Women are GREATLY influenced by their friend's opinions, and if she gets a green light from them... she will definitely hit the gas.
This article was written by the founder of Becomeaplayer.com known only as The Player. For more articles and free tips on picking up women check out the web site.
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